By: Heather Clark, Christiannews.com
Los Angeles, California – ABC News recently aired a segment about a woman involved in what is called a polyamorous relationship — living with multiple boyfriends or girlfriends under one roof.
The woman, identified as Jaiya, began by living with her boyfriend Jon. However, because Jaiya wanted to have children and Jon didn’t, he suggested that she bring someone else into the picture that would conceive with her.
Therefore, Jaiya brought home Ian, and the two had a little boy together. Both Ian and Jon are raising the child, and Jon quit his job to stay home with him.
“I’m looking for what helps me to be the best human that I can possibly be,” Jaiya told reporters. “I stopped searching for ‘the one.’ I can have the one, and I can also have the one, and the one and the one.”
Jaiya works as a professional sexologist, giving sexual advice to others. She admits to having sexual relations with both men, and states that while Jon now wants other children, she does not.
“There’s a part of me that wants to go back to “That was MY girlfriend,” Jon said.
However, according to the ABC report, Jon is now looking for a second girlfriend, and Ian already has another relationship on the side.
Jaiya said that the family structure has taken a lot of new forms in recent years, so she does not see a problem with living with two boyfriends.
“What is the modern family today?” she asked. “We’ve got step-moms and step-dads; we’ve got gay parents raising children… The family today is a different thing than what it was years ago.”
Ian made similar comments when asked what he would say to those who believe his polyamorous relationship is immoral.
“Thank you for sharing your opinion,” he said. “We’re not here to convert people and tell people that monogamy is wrong.”
ABC notes that there are an estimated 500,000 polyamorous relationships in the nation. One viewer, named Anne, called the comments from other viewers who spoke against polyamory “hateful.”
“I’m in a poly relationship right now and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been,” she asserted. “I don’t expect other people to ‘get it’ right away or at all, but I do expect them to mind their own business if they don’t want to approach it with an open mind.”
Another viewer named Lisa admitted she also had a similar arrangement.
“I’m in a polyamorous relationship too, and they make it seem way more complicated than it is,” she wrote. “Monogamy is great, but I had thought we had finally advanced enough that non-monogamy can become a norm.”
However, some strongly disagreed.
“Arrangements like this never end well for all involved,” wrote one commenter. “This is total chaos.”
“It is adultery in God’s eyes,” stated another. “That is not a modern family. Family by God’s laws and standards is one man, one woman. Not two men [and] one woman, or two women and one man, or two men [and] two women. The rest is called by God ‘abomination’ and will not enter the Kingdom of God.”
“Doesn’t the Scripture warn about this for that one reason?”added a third viewer. “This can lead to psychological problems either in one or both men, or all three people. Even some problems in the child or children if there are more. America is out of control, and if we’re not careful, this country will [end up] like Rome. I think I can see what was one reason why Rome fell.”
March 21, 2013 at 4:06 PM |
Makes me sick! Poor child in the midst of it all…dear Jesus save the child and renew his mind as he grows up to know what is right! Amen
March 13, 2013 at 1:50 PM |
For some reason, this makes me physically ill reading this. Please forgive my bluntness, but not only is it NASTY, it is confusing. I feel sorry for the boy who has to make sense of this debacle as he grows up. Now, that I read this I remember a movie in the 80s called Three Men and a Little Lady. It was about a woman raising her daughter with three men (the baby’s father and his two roommates). It is the sequel to Three Men and a Little Baby. They were all heterosexual men, but when the girl was trying to explain her family to her teacher the woman was understandably confused. According to the FOUR year old she had one biological father and two honorary fathers. Guess it was a glimpse of what was to come…the family structure as God designed (man, woman and child(ren)) is being actively attacked and those defending His structure are labeled zealots and bigots…smh. We are definitely living in the last and evil days…pray for the upcoming generation because there will be very few true followers of Christ if the Lord allows them to reach the age of understanding.
March 8, 2013 at 2:20 AM |
As it was in the days of noah and lot, so will it be in the days before te return of the Lord. Poly (multiple) amorous (loves…amor is latin for love) this is not. This is poly Lustful
March 8, 2013 at 2:00 AM |
The Jezebel and Ahab spirits are running amuck. Notice the defenders of this were mostly women in the post. Monogamy IS THE NORM. So if this new take on whoring around has to “become the norm” thatshould let everyone know that its ABNORMAL. And why is it that the one lady who defended it called everyone that is against this perversion ‘hateful”? Sodomites will do anything against anyone that calls thrm out. And yes they are sodomites too because for them to become this reprobate they had to have practiced some type of sodomite behaviour…i.e. oral sex. Yes. That is sodomy. And the jezebel woman is in control as yoy can see, controlling these men through sex. No man is his right mind wants to share a woman unless he is emasculated. Finally realize the first defender called people hateful if they said it was wrong but then goes on to say how she is doing this type of perversion too. Does that not remind you of Romans 1 verses 28 or 29 where it said they not only do these things but take pleasure in othets that do the same thing? This type of relationship is a live in swinging orgy at best and its the children being born into it that satan is after.
March 6, 2013 at 11:51 PM |
So, ok, John mentioned that he did not want to have kids and suggested to Jiya to find another lover to conceive a child, while still remaining in the relationship raising the child she had with her other lover??? Hmmmm….still doesn’t make any sense.
March 6, 2013 at 11:01 PM |
Let me get this straight. Jon is living with his girlfriend, doesn’t want a baby with her, allows another man to impregnate her, quits his job to stay home and be a “manny”, and expects his relationship with his girlfriend to be hunky dory? The fact that we share the same name is embarrassing, but I digress. He’s an idiot and I question his manhood. No real man is going to let another man sleep with his girl nor would he quit his job to stay home. He clearly didn’t want marriage and Jaiya should’ve found a real single man. All three of them have issues but the worst part is that child is going to grow up with a jacked up view of the world. You don’t need the bible to see this situation makes no sense. Here’s hoping that one of them comes to their senes
March 15, 2013 at 8:34 PM |
Thank you. You speak THE TRUTH!
March 6, 2013 at 11:29 AM |
God said therefore for this cause a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his and the two shall become one flesh. God also said let every man have his own wife and every woman her own husband. God never designed us to have more than one mate. Because foolishness has been on the scene so long, folks are going with what suits them and not the truth. Why would you want something that someone else has already had. I understand that everybody is not a believer, but the standard has been frimly established by God from the beginning. Satan is succeeding at blurring the line bewteen moral and immoral. With shows depicting this stuff on television.
Red flags should be bieng raised, but the church is missing in action and you don’t often hear it being preached across the pulpits. Some of us are still busy preaching, season,miracle and harvest while the Word of God is being blasphemed by the world and so called saints. They won’t come out of sin because the Truth has not been preached to them and if it has we have not given them the reason for the hope that lies within us. The hope that Jesus can and will deliver them if they want it.
March 4, 2013 at 1:11 PM |
It sounds like Jon is going to wake up real soon based on his feelings about this “arrangement”. You can tell Jiya spends more time with Ian and she likes him more since she had his baby. This is just madness all the way around. This isn’t God’s design of how (1) man and (1) woman should enter a relationship. Nonsense; and what the heck is a sexologist??? And what wholesome intimacy advance can she give if she’s getting down with two (that we know of) men? Laughable.
March 4, 2013 at 1:04 PM |
I am speechless. The original boyfriend should have stepped up and married her when she wanted to have a child . Now he is just the glorified housewife and mommy raising their child while the other two go on hot dates without him. All I can say is wow. I could not even imagine sharing my husband with another woman. It makes me sad to think about him giving all his attention to someone else.
March 4, 2013 at 9:37 AM |
This is absolutely disgusting to the core! Who in their right minds would want to be in a relationship with some one of the opposite sex, who is also with someone of your own sex!? I don’t want but ONE woman in my life, and I don’t want her to have another. The thought of me sharing my woman with another man just makes me nauseous! God help these people!
March 4, 2013 at 8:04 AM |
You can never underestimate Satan’s plans for families. When ya think it’s getting ridiculous…..behold I new agenda arises! This relationship is full of confusion and real love doesn’t exist. Ofcourse theres past issues that needs healing to take place. Its so much to be said….
March 4, 2013 at 7:45 AM |
what angers me about this is that it is a definate breeding ground for sexual abuse to this child.
March 12, 2013 at 7:56 AM |
That is the FIRST thing that came to mind for me. My discernment tells me that Jon is not staying home merely just to be a “manny”. The fact he didn’t want kids and now is the caretaker of that child raises so many red flags.
March 23, 2013 at 12:08 PM |
Same thought I had, we need to pray fervently in the name of Jesus Christ and be the examples He requires us to be.
March 3, 2013 at 5:01 PM |
lustful and effeminate spirit, I plead the blood of Jesus against you and I renounce you and your forces right now in the name of Jesus. I resist you satan, your feelings, thoughts, and emotions. flee right now in the name of Jesus.
March 6, 2013 at 6:31 AM |
Amen!
March 7, 2013 at 8:18 AM |
Amen!
March 3, 2013 at 9:04 AM |
wow
March 3, 2013 at 12:02 AM |
I just want to throw up
March 1, 2013 at 12:32 PM |
This is White folks “politically correct” version of pimpin. Thats not a family that is soft-core pimpin!
March 1, 2013 at 11:26 AM |
What is wrong with folks?!? I think people are doing things just to see how immoral they can be! I have never heard of something like this with heterosexual people.. No – those men are homosexuals! No straight man would ever live in some mess like this.. Smh, Oh Lord Jesus please help I pray for the child, they always want to bring an innocent child in their sinful filt!
March 5, 2013 at 10:11 AM |
I understand your feelings however, this does nit mean the men are gay. This is to me the same as men having sex with the same woman and they know it , don’t care and continue to do it. You are right in saying this is sinful. It just makes me wonder what is going to happen to the child. Will he be taken away. This is so sad.
March 8, 2013 at 2:10 AM |
Actually they are. They are both having sex with her and become one via her. Spirits transfer and soul ties form through sex. That is why they both can have sex with her and live with her knowing the other is doing the same. Jon is effeminate but so is ian. They probably do oral sex on her and that is sodomy too. She is Jezebel and they are ahab. Remember ahab was controlled by jezebel and was a little punk sissy that cried and sulked if he didnt get his way. Jezebel was a witch and a whore. She used het sex to divine on people. Just like this woman.
March 1, 2013 at 11:26 AM |
These people in that video are in total darkness and going for the worst. Jon can’t even decide where to go since he can’t have a baby with Jai. Duh! why do you think God’s word says one man and one woman. Why do you think the purpose from God is to have a monogomy relationship? There’s going to be red flags every where when they continue. Thus Polygomy is a sin period.
March 1, 2013 at 10:34 AM |
We all know who wears the pants in this relationship and it sure isn’t the men. The woman punked her man into doing this and probably threatened she’d do it with or without his consent. Women are notorious for punking their man whom they don’t respect in order to have sex with a man whom they do respect. When man rejects his position in God for a woman then the woman loses all her respect for him. Look at what Adam did- he rejected his position as ruler of the entire planet in order to please his wife who was determined to please her self with or without Adam’s consent. Adam should have gotten Eve in check. Likewise, this woman’s 1st man should have gotten her in check by abstaining from any type of sexual relations with her until he married her. That would have weeded her out a long time ago because she would have ran off because she’s miserable inside. Just look at her profession – sexologist. Seriously, that’s not a real profession a person who hasn’t gotten over their rape/relationship issues gets into. Only bisexual women get into professions like sexologists and by looking at her actions she’s probably doing more than just having sex with just men.
March 1, 2013 at 10:05 AM |
I only heard about polyamory 4or5 months ago. I was shocked when I saw a documentary about it. What was even more surprising to me was the number of black people I saw on tv tied to this mess. Living in the world we live in i guess nothing should be surprising. Right? I keep seeing on the news how Obama is trying to pressure California to overturn their voter approved ban of gay marriages! SMH!
March 1, 2013 at 7:48 AM |
The condition of the world is very sad. People with sick minds raising kids and corrupting them. Evidence of the devils plan in action. My God my God.
March 1, 2013 at 6:46 AM |
dumb, dumber and dumbest. As I tell my children, “Sin makes you stupid.”
March 1, 2013 at 3:26 AM |
“What is the modern family today?” she asked. “We’ve got step-moms and step-dads; we’ve got gay parents raising children… The family today is a different thing than what it was years ago.”
The only thing I’ll agree with in the above statement concerns Step parents…the rest is garbarge. Step parents are permissible…Joseph wasn’t Jesus’ biological father. Gay parents are AN ABOMINATION AND TOTALLY VIOLATES the will of God regarding family (“THIS IS NOT A FAMILY” according to what is WRITTEN in the Word of God…plain & simple not matter what #44/#45 says, he’ll answer to God for that). This “foolishness & nonsense” is the result of EVIL INFLUENCE from the highest office in the nation.
God’s Word is crystal clear, His formula is…”husband + wife = children (WHICH MAKES A FAMILY AS GOD PLANNED/ESTABLISHED IT…anything else is “UNCIVILIZED”). God didn’t give Adam a girlfriend, He gave Adam a wife…so a “boyfriend(s) & a girlfriend(s) who have children outside of wedlock ‘does not equal a family according to God’s formula…that’s SIN. It’s just juvenile for grown men & women (20+, 30+, 40+, 50+, 60+, and in some cases 70 & 80+) to be referring to each other as “boyfriend and girlfriend”. In any given U.S. city, boyfriends and girlfriends “SHACKING UP” (LIVING IN SIN) account for a vast majority of domestic violence (e.g. aggrav. asslt, aggrav. battery, kidnapping, battery) and murder cases. It’s an epidemic where I live.
This is just plain NASTY & GAY. True Christians must continue to stand on what is WRITTEN IN THE WORD OF GOD BECAUSE IT’S WRITTEN FOR OUR LEARNING (Romans 15:4).
*MARRIAGE & FAMILY ARE GOD’S IDEA AND NO ONE ELSE’ AND THEREFORE NO ONE HAS A RIGHT TO ATTEMPT TO REDEFINE/CHANGE WHAT GOD CREATED…THERE’S NOTHING “CIVIL NOR RIGHT” ABOUT IT!!!
March 1, 2013 at 12:08 AM |
This is disguisting,how can you be proud of such a thing.Lord have mercy on them
February 28, 2013 at 11:41 PM |
How come ever time people (Christians) go against dumb stuff like this they say where closed minded, or in this case not “advanced”. When the truth is there not doing anything new that nations of old haven’t done and look what happened to them. You can already tell it won’t end well. The first guy already wants his woman to be just his deep down in his heart. I really feel bad for the child/children that’s going to be involved in that mess. These people are so selfish and they don’t even see it. Not once did they say anything about what’s best for the child. I’ll i saw was what they wanted. Can’t wait for the day Jesus comes.
February 28, 2013 at 11:32 PM |
Just plain stupid and yet they think they are wise she’s a sexologist,so that means she’s teaching this stupidity to others, i don’t know how the Father can take anymore of this I’m so glad for His mercy that He displayed at the Cross thru His Son holding back His wrath for now because otherwise He would open up the earth and everything movin would be swallowed up,especially in the U.S we truly are living in the last and evil days and we (church) are going to have to live by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God. Even so come Lord Jesus
February 28, 2013 at 9:30 PM |
Whaaaa…t!
Where do people come up with these ideas???!!!
February 28, 2013 at 9:20 PM |
One jazabiel+ plus two ahabs= the raising of a child in COMPLETE DISORDER! I PRAY that at least the child will hear the word of God from one of his servants and break free from that demonic, (devoid of God) living arrangement. I pray those “parents” find salvation too cause hell is real ,but so is the love of God.
February 28, 2013 at 8:48 PM |
A Corrupted mind equals what the word says. Titus 1:15-16 “Everything is pure to those whose hearts are pure. But nothing is pure to those who are corrupt and unbelieving, because their minds and consciences are corrupted. Such people claim they know God, but they deny him by the way they live. They are detestable and disobedient, worthless for doing anything good.”
February 28, 2013 at 8:20 PM |
FLAMING HOT MESS! The stench is coming thru my laptop and it stinks!
February 28, 2013 at 7:41 PM |
This is straight up CRAZY! You know this world is sick.
February 28, 2013 at 7:15 PM |
It’s still homosexuality, no matter how you say it.
February 28, 2013 at 6:45 PM |
Those poor children. I can’t even think about the grown ups. If they don’t hear the truth, they’re going to do more horrible acts. And for sure STDs are going to occur; against nature. Ugh! I can’t believe the state of man now.
February 28, 2013 at 5:05 PM |
Spirit of dumb and insanity..Lord please have mercy on this nation and us as a people of God we need to pray!! 2 Chronicles 7:14:If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land. Amen!!
March 1, 2013 at 1:37 PM |
To Steph G.
I love that scripture you referenced; but my thoughts on it is, man has fallen so far from righteousness and doing what is right, and “they” certainly do not see the error of their ways. I believe it’s to late for the land to be healed. The wrath of God has already begun, they don’t get it, and they are not going to repent! Look at Obama, doing his best to repeal gay marriage. We know God hates this lifestyle, but these folks are determined they’re going to do what they want, forget about what God says. God help us all! My mother used to say Jesus is so close now, she could hear His footsteps. We have to ready!
February 28, 2013 at 4:54 PM |
When are folks gonna stop thinking about their own selfish, freaky, SICK desires, and start thinking about the well being of the child? And then they want to put it out on display to try an convince the world that their immoral behavior is normal. Satan you are a LIAR!
Starting with the woman first: She’s proudly boasting that she “can also have the one, and the one and the one.” What does that sound like, y’all? SHE’S A FREAK! Despite her cute “girl next door” look, she’s not fit to be a mother! This is the reason why we now have young preschoolers engaging in lewd activities with one another. These adults need to be stripped down, water hosed and whipped!! That goes for the lesbians and gays who seem to think it’s harmless to adopt and raise young children. It’s not!! Why must you people subject these innocent vulnerable children to your sick perverted lifestyles.
Now, as for the man: First off, a true heterosexual man — especially had it been a BLACK man — is not going to allow another man to come in, lay up and impregnate his woman. It’s not happen’n! Somethings wrong with that picture. I’m inclined to believe that “Jon” is a homosexual, and I think he really wanted the man there for his own voyeuristic pleasures. Think about it: he didn’t want any children, yet he goes all out and quits his job to care for another man’s son. Really. One must question “Ian’s” true motives also. That package was all too convenient.
At the end of the day: What is this teaching the child?
March 1, 2013 at 3:01 AM |
I agree with you, Jon maybe he is a gay why should he quit his job. so Ian is working right, This world is becoming something that we can not recognize!
March 1, 2013 at 6:15 PM |
Wow..This is some good stuff Marletta. So true.
February 28, 2013 at 4:49 PM |
(The two men looks miserable…and gay). Well…this is really Hell on Earth. Be ready and strong people of God.
I am speechless…i wonder how far people will go…it gets worse everyday…This is sick and sad.
February 28, 2013 at 4:28 PM |
Hell is on the earth already….Wow, what a sick and perverted world we live in.. If you are living for this world, you are going to be so disappointed when you get what you wanted….
February 28, 2013 at 4:05 PM |
A HOT ABOMINABLE MESS!!!
February 28, 2013 at 3:42 PM |
Sick!!!! This child will be confuse if he is not already…
February 28, 2013 at 3:08 PM |
“Arrangements like this never end well for all involved,” wrote one commenter. “This is total chaos.”
“It is adultery in God’s eyes,” stated another. “That is not a modern family. Family by God’s laws and standards is one man, one woman. Not two men [and] one woman, or two women and one man, or two men [and] two women. The rest is called by God ‘abomination’ and will not enter the Kingdom of God.”
“Doesn’t the Scripture warn about this for that one reason?”added a third viewer. “This can lead to psychological problems either in one or both men, or all three people. Even some problems in the child or children if there are more. America is out of control, and if we’re not careful, this country will [end up] like Rome. I think I can see what was one reason why Rome fell.”
February 28, 2013 at 3:07 PM |
Poor confused child. One mommy, one daddy = solid family unit!
February 28, 2013 at 3:04 PM |
Simply unbelievable! The whole world is out of order. God Himself, will have to come and put things aright. Too much freedom is no freedom at all. This is rebellion against God.
February 28, 2013 at 3:01 PM |
Did I wake up on the planet mars?Geeeesh!
February 28, 2013 at 2:21 PM |
That is by far one of the craziest things i have read, with exception of the kid all 3 of them suffer from the Spirit of dumb…..
then the kid which has the brain of a sponge, absorbs & remembers this when he gets older thens grows up and tries to have more than one girlfriend and or wife. if God doesnt get a hold of him that child is going to suffer mentally. the blodd is on the mothers hands… a Shame…..
February 28, 2013 at 2:15 PM |
Sick, just plain sick. I would feel a little bad for Jon but he bought it on himself. I feel worse for the kid. This world is … well… I am at a lost for words, Lord help us all. WOW!!!
February 28, 2013 at 2:09 PM |
Get ready Gods people we are living in a time where we are going to be forced to stand on HIS WORD. So what are we going to do when the time comes? Are we going to let sin rule the day? Or are we going to go all out not worried about losing friends, jobs, status, to stand with Our Father and say enough is enough! The time is coming when we will have to speak out. Prayer is always good but action has to follow GOD IS WAITING FOR US TO SAY……THUS SAYS THE LORD! Ex keep pushing!!!!!!!
March 1, 2013 at 4:12 AM |
The time is already here. The time is now to tell a lost world about God’s truth on morality. The USA is already falling, it is going the way of ancient Rome.
February 28, 2013 at 2:05 PM |
It’s not complicated…it’s chaos.
February 28, 2013 at 1:57 PM |
These are just nasty people have no kind of morals
February 28, 2013 at 1:55 PM |
That’s why as Christians we do not live by how we feel. We live by the word of God and the Spirit of God. Just because we feel a certain way does not give us the right to act on it. This is the world’s mantra…”I’m gay because that’s the way I feel” “I committed adultery because I felt like it” “I won’t forgive because I don’t feel like it”….and on and on. When we live by the word of God, his laws, then his spirit has every place to correct how we feel and align us with what’s right according to his perspective. When we let our feelings rule us then we end up doing sinful things like this and are destined for hell.
Proverbs 30:12 “There is a generation that is pure in it’s own eyes, yet is not washed from its filthiness.”
February 28, 2013 at 1:54 PM |
wow!!
February 28, 2013 at 1:51 PM |
The devil is a LIAR. This is ABSOLUTE WICKEDNESS. It’s a shame that this child has to be part of this wretched perversion. This is what happens when things are done out of order. There are no LIMITS with the Devil. He will give out all that a wicked heart desires pulling folks into deeper and deeper perversion and bondage, and without SALVATION through JESUS when they pass from this life into eternal life they will hear SATAN’S MOCKING VOICE laughing HA HA it’s TOO LATE!!!!
February 28, 2013 at 1:45 PM |
How sad…this is evil in the sight of God and the child is a casualty in this…ironically, his name is Ammon, and the Ammonites were enemies to the Isrealites in the bible, that stemmed from Lot and ultimately were destroyed in Sodom & Gommorah, Gen. 19-37-38. They’re so confused it isn’t even funny, no one knows what they’re role is. That’s utter chaos.
February 28, 2013 at 1:36 PM |
This makes me gag
February 28, 2013 at 1:29 PM |
Worse by the minute – this world is in total chaos!
February 28, 2013 at 1:07 PM |
This is sick!! These folks need to realize his their choices will effect this young innocent child! Smh
February 28, 2013 at 12:57 PM |
Believers please stand firm on the words in Holy Bible and be not conformed or shaken! This is an abomination, please do not be deceived.
March 1, 2013 at 6:09 AM |
Amen.